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Baby Veronica & Baby Deseray: Don't Let Them Sell Our Babies!

Dot Scott
10/13/13

The recent cases of Baby Veronica and Baby Desaray make me fear for young adoptive children, especially those of color. The similarities of these two cases, including the same adoption agency attorney in both, demand a closer look into these children’s civil rights.

As an African-American mother, it disturbs me to read of all the cheering and celebration of Veronica’s return to her adoptive parents. Where have we come as a country when we all allow ourselves to go back to the days when the purchase of humans, especially minorities, is accepted and even applauded?

The reported stories around the relationships between the biological fathers and mothers suggest that these mothers are giving birth to minority children with the express intent of giving them up for adoption. The biological mothers are even generously compensated for doing so. The implication becomes that the fathers were used as sperm donors, which is surely cheaper than in vitro fertilization.

Any sympathy for the adoptive parents continues to diminish as it becomes increasingly clear that something very sinister is going on here, and the birth mothers may be part of it. In fact, the Charleston Post and Courier took a close look at this disturbing issue in its September 21 article, "The Price of Adoption." The reporter quotes Shannon Jones, the Charleston attorney who represents the biological fathers of both Veronica and Desaray as saying: “Once these agencies and lawyers get the birth mother on the hook ... they tell these birth moms not to answer any calls from the dads. Of course, then they argue the dad is a deadbeat.”

If it’s true that the mothers set out to deceive or mislead the biological fathers, that is the saddest of all elements surrounding these adoptions. 

Our children are not chattels to be conveniently sold to adoptive parents who care more about what they want than what is best for the child. What gives them the right to take a minority child when a loving and adoring father wants to raise her? While contributing eggs and sperm doesn’t necessarily make a good mother or father, neither does fighting a prolonged court battle to win custody and securing a public relations to accuse the birth father of being a deadbeat dad.

Real mothers and fathers will always do what’s best for the child, and if that child is happy with her biological parent, no one should attempt to sever that bond.

From all accounts of both the Baby Veronica and Baby Desaray cases, I believe that there should be a thorough investigation of the birth mothers, the adoptive parents, and the attorney for the adoption agency to ensure that the civil rights of these children and their biological fathers have not been violated.

We as a nation must protect the civil rights of children of all races. Above all, we must remember that the words of the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King remind us that our children too are “created equal."

Dot Scott is the president of the Charleston Branch of the NAACP.

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Anonymous's picture
I feel it should have been considered when the birth dad ripped her out of the adoptive parents arms. He had his chance when the mom was carrying the baby.
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halite about 20 something years ago, my husband and I, who are Choctaw, were seriously considering adopting a native child..i got in contact with a tribal agency out in el paso, who so intensely questioned us that even tho we were native, did not even come close to them letting one of their children be adopted by us...what in the hell has happened over the years since then that tribal entities and the u s govt have come to letting native children be adopted by straight up white people over and beyond other tribal peoples...it is just cruel to allow a native child to be brought up in white man's world..never knowing his/her history, beliefs, languages, relatives, etc...apparently the icwa is totally useless???
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lets not forget what is in the best interest of the child. Veronica is four at that stage very well aware of who her daddy is. I pray for her daily! I followed this case since day one. Sad outcome!
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lets not forget what is in the best interest of the child. Veronica is four at that stage very well aware of who her daddy is who her family is. I pray for her daily! I followed this case since day one. Disappointing outcome!
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loving and adoring father...the one who signed his parental rights away
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Well now don't you think it's not right that native americans can't adopted native american children? It's crazy but true and now right
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I have one question, Why do these white people want to adopt our Native Children when there are white children that need "loving" home
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In fact, I don't think you are at all thinking about the child. The child has already established her adoptive parents as her parents. It would be a horrible situation for her to be rooted up after such a long time and have to re-adjust to a new family situation. The fact of the matter is is what's important is what's best for the child. Not the parents. Nor color. As a 28 woman of color who was adopted by Caucasian parents, I find this a little insulting. I was not "sold" to my parents by any means. And I don't think Veronica was either. There are more Black children up for adoption than Black parents who are looking to adopt. Foster Care should never be a better option. I have received what my biological Mother could not provide. Yes, my color does effect me in the world we live in, but who's does not? The most important thing here is Love. And Veronica's adopted parents' love for her, is what made them fight to keep her in her life. How insulting for them to be accused otherwise. I agree with the ruling.
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My eyes have been opened more fully to the FACTS outlined!!! May GOD use those of you who have had these experiences to get this word out more and more! We are quickly losing all of our rights in most every way in this country!!! We have got to stand up for RIGHTEOUSNESS and WORK TO HELP THOSE WITH OUR VALUES TO BE ELECTED TO GET THESE LAWS CHANGED!!!!!!
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Why is race always brought into everything? It's quite simplistic, the baby was legally adopted (a father who didn't care giving up his rights and a mom who gave up hers) and then ripped from the only family she knew and then having to adapt to a new family and then bounced back again. I don't care what race any of them is, I worry about the implications on this little girl. There are too many people out there getting pregnant or making babies and giving their rights away only to be allowed years later to rip their children away from the homes they are in, the family they have come to know. That needs to stop! You have a choice when you give birth, keep the child or not, if not leave the child alone. If you are a guy, man up and at least take part in the decision after taking the time to meet the baby....otherwise don't come cryin later and cause the child trauma emotionally!
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