Thompson Williams, Caddo

Strong Fathers Powwow Stresses a Father’s Duty to his Family

Carol Berry
6/11/11

Thompson Williams, Caddo, stands up for grand entry, seeing around him the families he has known and the young men who have learned to be fathers, sometimes despite intense peer pressure.

Underscoring the dual role of Indian men as protectors and fathers, veterans lead the way into the powwow circle followed by the dancers, some accompanying children.

“We work with good parents and we make them great parents,” Williams says, welcoming everyone to the Strong Fathers Powwow.

He headed the annual two-day powwow which  got under way May 28, south of Denver, at Tall Bull Memorial Grounds, a scenic area named for a family prominent in the Cheyenne Dog Soldier Society whose members vowed to stake themselves to the ground, standing in defense of their families.

A plaque in memory of the late youth advocate Lance Allrunner, Cheyenne/ Comanche/Kiowa, who had been a member of the Dog Soldier Society, was offered as one dance contest prize, Williams notes.

“Anytime you feel the world closing in on you and you feel you have to run away from things, you take your lance out and you say, ‘From here on out I do not retreat, for my family and myself,’” Allrunner used to tell groups of children who made and decorated small lances under his direction, Williams recalls.

Williams directs the Honoring Our Traditional Ways: Strong Fathers program, federally funded at the Denver Indian Family Service Center to “increase participants’ involvement in raising their children and providing healthy role models.”

Fatherhood isn’t always easy, Williams says, given that “society can look at you as a ‘wild Indian,’” often less desirable as an employee than a Native woman might be. “In this society, it’s easier to see a woman as being less threatening than a male, so educational and job opportunities open up more for women.”

So Indian men are often compromised in the role of breadwinner that society expects of them although they are of central importance to their children: “When you have a father not only present physically but emotionally, you have a powerful influence on your life.”

For the fatherless, Williams says, “through the experience of not having a father present, they do lose part of their history, part of who they are—for us it’s the loss of our culture, our history. The father—his history, who he is—makes that connection with who we were in the past. When you lose that, you lose part of yourself and you look for it in other ways.”

Generally easy-going, Williams shows a different side when it comes to young men who brag about having children they don’t help to raise and who call that “the mom’s responsibility.”  Other animals may behave that way, but to be a man, “fatherhood is something you earn,” he stresses.

Why a pow wow?

“When the program began about four years ago, we began to see a lot of folks coming in who really didn’t have a grasp of their culture. It wasn’t that they didn’t want to learn, they were just unable to find anyone to teach them. I felt that a powwow was one of the ways we could get families to work together, to have fun together, and explore what their culture is. It’s a good start,” he says, smiling.

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Is this article about strong fathers? About Indian women getting more opportunities than men? About standing up for veterans at powwows? About fatherhood? About the need for powwows? If it is about strong fathers, the importance of fatherhood and stuff like that, I completely agree. On the other hand, if it is about the need for powwows, I would mention that the time we spend on powwows comes at the expense of time we devote to protecting other aspects of our cultures (e.g. knowledge of plants, languages, making cradles, surviving in the wild, etc etc). Every powwow is nearly the same. We spend so much time preparing regalia and practicing for powwows that we neglect specific aspects of tribal culture in favor of generic powwows. And that does not seem very healthy. Likewise, if the article talks about standing up to honor veterans at powwows, I would like to point out there is an immense difference between our REAL warriors who would stake themselves to the ground to protect their land and families to the military "veterans" of today. The former definitely deserve immense respect and honor and my hats off to them. The latter need to be reminded that millions of indigenous peoples in Godforsaken parts of the world have been killed directly or indirectly through their actions and that these wars serve to benefit only oil companies, military companies and other capitalistic interests of the colonial government.
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