You might not be her bio dad but you are the dad of her heart. At the end of the day we don't think of the ones who are there for us because of blood, we think of those who are there because they want to be. I pray that her mother and all those who can are helping your daughter find the help she needs to see that there IS a tomorrow. Your article hit home for me as I married a man with two small daughters. Their mother was and continues to be a part of their lives but we were the ones who brought them up. I have no bio children of my own and it took a few years to understand that these girls were a gift to me and to do the best parenting job I could was my gift to them. I am Cherokee and this is our way. It mattered not that they did not have my blood, they were mine. There were some rough times when it was pointed out to me that I was not the "real " Mom...it hurt, but it didn't stop me from doing what I thought was best at the time. Sometimes my "best" included lots of tears and raised voices on all sides but I didn't give up. There were may days of feeling helpless while still wanting to do what was best for the girls. Many years later I can say that, yes, with the benefit of hindsight there were some things I should have done better, but I always tried to do it with their best interests' at heart. For this last Mothers' Day I received a note...it said...."Thank you for picking us and thank you more for keeping us". Thank you, Adrian, for letting me know I wasn't alone. There are many parents like us.
Sunday, July 1, 2012 - 16:28