Having lost four family members in the past two months, I have to say that this was painfully appropriate right now. One I had visited just two weeks before he died, before we knew he was dying, and I am grateful I got to see him while he was still alert and oriented. The others were as Gyasi described: I did not realize I had lost contact with them until I heard they were gone. One I was astonished and ashamed to discover had been in a long-term care facility only fifty miles away, and I did not learn of it until she died. That I deeply regret.