As a foster child myself, I can say that there were good things and bad things, the worst was being moved from home to home, the abuse suffered in at least one of those homes. The best was routine, meals, bedtimes and activities. For my family, I was sad being separated away from them, that my parents still struggled with addictions and all that went with it, the fighting, the abuse, being unstable and always being caught in the crossfire. I remember one of my moms boyfriends trying to throw me out of the care going down the highway when I was 10. What did I learn from all of this from both foster care and my parents? grownups were not to be trusted, I needed to take care of myself and not let any grown up ever have any power over me. Iam now 46 years old, I have grown up, but I learned through a parent aid I had while raising my own kids, that Iam the parent I never had, I would make it different for them and change as much of the abuse I had for their sake. I have forgiven those that abused me and gave them back all the bad stuff they gave me, I have kept the good and all that I have learned I have passed on to my children and grandchildren. For those of you who are struggling remember to be good to yourself and reach out to healthy people and heal for your sake and for your kids. Its not easy but it is worth it. For the systems and parents who are suppose to protect the children, please do what is right for them not your selves, the children need a voice that loves and protects them.
Saturday, February 9, 2013 - 16:24