I am a victim of physical abuse, verbal abuse, financial oppression, I've had my house vandalized, and the NDN men even went so far as to have bad medicine/curses placed on me. They were not man enough to face me, so they went behind my back when I wasn't home and vandalized my property and the latter. Like Cedric's article indicates these were men from my own race, not necessarily the same tribe. When a man decides to run around with different women and then thinks that he come back home there is something wrong with him. The Bible talks about a "woman's scorn", this is true. I was not one to support this one so called "man" who hid all of his child support from me, 6 kids from 3 women. He thought he could actually get away with this, telling me that he couldn't help pay for bills because he had to pay child support. Native american men can be very deceitful, not "HONEST INJUNS". After all of the deceit, infidelity, destruction of my property, trying to take advantage of my finances, I immediately attempted to end the relationship. When I told him to get out of my life, he turned around and beat me. Domestic Violence is about power and control, after this he thought he could intimidate me into letting him stay... When I reported on him to the tribal police, all bruised, bleeding, the tribal police officer had the audacity to ask me what did you do to make him do this. I found out that this, so called man, had a history of being a wife beater, which is why none of his relationships lasted. Fast forward 10 years of being a single parent and happy, I met a man from another tribe. (People and family were very critical of me dating outside my own race.) We married 4 years after we met. After we got married he did a 180 on me, he seemed to think that our marriage license was a guarantee that I would not file for divorce. I gave him fair warning that if he ever started picking on my children and me thats it, the second was if he ever went out on me. He didn't believe me, he did both about the same time and thought nothing would happen. This guy even told me when he got out of the military, "You work and I'll stay home with the kids." I told him I didn't recall ever agreeing to that arrangement...When I confronted him, he left. Apparently he thought that thats what he could do, just walk away. He was mad about the child support for our child, he was mad about having to pay for his own bills, which I was able to prove in court were his own. This guy did the same thing to me, he put stuff in my car's gas tank. He went to medicine men from his tribe to pray against me. (It took me awhile to figure this part out both times.) Going to tribal court was no picnic either. Our tribal judges aren't knowledgeable of the law, qualifications: property, livestock, language. I hope this VAWA helps all women, no matter what. It's true what Cedric writes about family's not wanting you to report on the NDN perpetrator.
Friday, March 1, 2013 - 14:07