Lisa, you are thinking like a White person when you write, "My general rule is that the more intimate the party, the larger the gift." It is consistent with what the media always tells us: consume, consume, consume, give gifts, buy, buy, buy. Because consumption lines the pockets of the corporations and financial institutions who run America. Please stop thrusting White views on us. This is not how we were traditionally. We would go over to our host's place and help them feed everyone. We would watch over their kids, tell them stories. If there was a large party coming, we could join our hosts on a hunt. We would gather acorns with them, put them in a basket, weigh the basket down with stones and let the river wash off the bitterness. We would help our hosts cook. After the feasting, we would wash their horses, pray with them, help them clean up. We would be part of our host's life for the entire day. On the other hand, the American media wants Americans to be mindless consumers. Let the Americans be mindless consumers. But please don't thrust that idiotic pseudo culture onto the Indian community.