Excellent article Ms. Willcuts Cole. Boy did you hit the nail on the head. I don't care how much of an "absentee" father one has been, there is no time like the present to get back into your children's lives. In a positive way, if possible. Then again, if you have a resistant mother, it can be a tough row to hoe. I've been both places. I abandoned my kids emotionally and turned them over to a relative to raise, thinking in a very self-centered/convenient manner tht they would be better off. I had left the family about a year before their mother passed away. Yes I saw them occasionally and sent checks every month and took them shopping every time I visited. But, emotionally I wasn't giving "me" to them. After six years of this I walked back into their lives thiking everything would be great. It was not and although we are happy to be back toghether, sort of, we are still dealing with the trauma caused by my actions during those years. We also brought a little sister born during that time byt kept from her dad for 8 years back into our lives. All dads can do is try to rebuild the trust and maybe that will take a life-time. But no reason not to start.
Friday, July 29, 2011 - 20:50